6 Things Happy People Never Do – Very instructive article –
I think this is a very instructive article. This is not a secret to success. Those who achieve social success are not always happy. Happiness is originally nothing to do with success. You have to make it clear whether you want to succeed or to be happy.
To gain social fame, to get rich or to marry a beautiful woman or handsome man is one thing and to be happy is another. Instead, those who presumably possess these things actually become unhappy. In a word, the ability to make efforts to realize a dream is nothing to do with happiness.
If you read this article with your understanding of such things, the article would be very instructive to you. It gives you a hint that you don’t have to do anything to succeed but you should not do these things to be happy. Happy people really love nature, stay optimistic, have a compassion for others, build a caring human relationship or wholeheartedly keep doing what they know is right. They, however, never do what is written here. It suggests that happiness is not something to gain but it is our true nature.
Masatoshi
Takeshita
July 26,
2014
Excerpt from a Japanese article: Karapaia –July
14, 2014 –
1. Mind other people’s business.
Forget about what others are doing. Stop looking at where they are and what they have. Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you. YOU are walking your own path. Sometimes the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes circumstances with everyone else’s public highlight reel. We listen to the noise of the world, instead of ourselves. So stop the comparisons! Ignore the distractions. Listen to your own inner voice. Mind your own business.
Forget about what others are doing. Stop looking at where they are and what they have. Nobody is doing better than you because nobody can do better than you. YOU are walking your own path. Sometimes the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes circumstances with everyone else’s public highlight reel. We listen to the noise of the world, instead of ourselves. So stop the comparisons! Ignore the distractions. Listen to your own inner voice. Mind your own business.
Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to
your heart and dedicate time to them every day. Don’t be scared to walk
alone, and don’t be scared to enjoy it. Don’t let anyone’s ignorance,
drama, or negativity stop you from being the best you can be. Keep doing what you know in your heart is right, for
YOU. Because when you are focused on meaningful work and at peace within
yourself, almost nothing can shake you.
2. Seek validation of self-worth from
others.
When you are content to simply be
yourself, without comparing and competing to impress others, everyone
worthwhile will respect you. And even more importantly, you will respect
yourself.
How are you letting others define you? What would you do differently if you
knew nobody would judge you?
Truth be told, no one has the right to judge you.
People may have heard your stories, and they may think they know you, but they
can’t feel what you are going through; they aren’t living YOUR life. So
forget what they think and say about you. Focus
on how you feel about yourself, and keep walking the path that feels best under
your feet.
Those who accept you are your friends. Those who don’t are your teachers. If
someone calls you something and it’s true, it’s not your problem because it’s
true. If someone calls you something and it’s not true, it’s not your
problem because it’s not true. Either way, whatever they call you is not
your problem. What other people call you is their problem…
What you call yourself, and who you decide to
become, is your problem.
3. Rely on other people and external
events for happiness.
Unhappiness lies in that gap between what we have now and
what we think we need. But the truth is, we don’t need to acquire
anything more to be content with what we already have. We don’t need
anyone else’s permission to be happy. Your life is magnificent not
because someone says it is, or because you have acquired something new, but
because you choose to see it as such. Don’t let your happiness be held
hostage. It is always yours to choose, to live and experience.
As soon as you stop making everyone and
everything else responsible for your happiness, the happier you’ll be. If you’re unhappy now, it’s not someone
else’s fault. Take full responsibility for your
own unhappiness, and you will instantly gain the ability to be happier.
Stop seeking in vain to arrange conditions that will
make you happy. Simply choose to appreciate the greatness that is yours
in this moment, and the right conditions will start to
line up around the contentment you seek.
The greater part of your happiness or
unhappiness depends upon your outlook, and not upon our situation. Even if things aren’t perfect right
now, think of all the beauty still left around you. A good reason to
smile is always one thought away; choose to tap into it any time you
like.
4. Hold on to resentment.
Let today be the day you stop being haunted by
the ghosts from your past.
What happened in the past is just one chapter in your story; don’t close the
book, just turn the page.
We’ve all been hurt by our own decisions and by others,
and while the pain of these experiences is normal, sometimes it lingers for too
long. Feelings of resentment urge us to relive the same pain over and
over, and we have a hard time letting go.
Forgiveness is the remedy. It allows you to focus on the future
without combating the past. To understand the infinite potential of
everything going forward is to forgive everything already behind you. Without forgiveness, wounds can never be healed and personal
growth can never be achieved. It doesn’t
mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means
you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the
incident and move on with your life.
5. Spend prolonged periods of time in negative environments.
When other people invite you to act like victims, when they whine and moan about the unfairness of life,
for example, and ask you to agree, to offer condolences, and to participate in
their grievances, WALK AWAY. When you join
in that game of negativity you always lose.
Even when you’re alone, create a positive mental space
for yourself. Make it a point to give up all the thoughts that make you
feel bad, or even just a few of them that have been troubling you, and see how
doing that changes your life. You don’t need negative thoughts.
They are all lies. They solve nothing. All they have ever given you
is a false self that suffers for no reason.
6. Resist the truth.
It is a certain deathtrap when we spend our
lives learning how to lie,
because eventually these lies grow so strong in our minds that we become bad at seeing, telling and living our own truth.
Lives come apart so easily when they have been held together with lies.
If you resist the truth, you will live a lie every day as the truth haunts your
thoughts every night. You simply can’t get away from your truth by moving
dishonestly from one place to the next.
So don’t bend; don’t water it down; don’t try to hide the
truth with deception; don’t edit your own soul according to the fashion of
what’s popular. It is better to offer no explanation or excuse than a
false one. It takes courage and strength to admit
the truth, but it is the only way to truly live. Accept what is, embrace
it fully, and live for the possibilities that lie ahead.